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What So Proudly We Hailed
A son's lesson learned

This'll Teach Her to Ask...
AKA "On Loving a Younger Woman

Thursday Seems Like Monday When Your Days Are All The Same
There are days and then there are days.

The Stanguellini In Aunt Edith's Gift Shop
It is mid-July in Lime Rock. After almost 7 years in Arizona, I find the Connecticut humidity is odd, intense.

It's Just a Number

1954 Ferrari 250 Europa PF Coupe

1962 Porsche 356B S Roadster T-6 (Twin Grill)

Two New Sites for DLMWeb
A couple of interesting projects

Marshall Crenshaw - Live Webcast - Friday, October 23, 2009 12Noon EST
Keep listening to 98.1FM Red Hook, NY WKZE

Vodafone McClaren Mercedes Widget

Jack AND Squat
... if they can't take a joke (and the horse they rode in on)

WebcamMax - A Great Easy- to-use Tool
For once I have nothing but praise for a piece of software..

Livestream.com Fails to Make the Grade
How to screw up a good idea

1939 W 154 (W 163) Silver Arrow Mercedes-Benz Rudolf Caracciola - 1939 German Grand Prix

A Minor - UConn's Astounding A Capella Group Rip It UP at Project Troubador
Park your cynicism - It is never too late for an epiphany!

Pistolera - Project Troubador/June 27, 2009

Desperados - WITH EVERYBODY!!

Walking Man Henry Herbert Knibbs/ recited by Waddie Mitchell
If you would like me to, I'll tell my story, now.

Oklahoma Hills - Jimmy LaFave Live at WKZE 98.1
This is as good as it gets! Best music I have ever webcast and archived.

Professor Louie & the Crowmatix - a new DLMWeb Client
The site features several layers of media and information for both promoters and fans.

The Legend of Crazy Horse by J.D. Blackfoot
Hard to find...Extraordinary piece of work.

This Abundant Life March 8 2009 - Lizzie & Baba
A streaming audio of the 3_08 show

Ryan Arnold Wins Helsinki's First Song Search Contest
An extraordinary song, by a special and talented young man.

Dusty Chaps - Tucson's Lost Treasure - Heat Stroke & Honk Tonk Music
These guys were the greatest Little Band on the Planet in 1970's Tucson.

Lizzie & Baba Craft a Song We All Can Sing
East meets West? Well, Left meets Right and finds some common ground!

Stop Using BADWARE, do not post your music in Real Player format.
I have a number of clients and friends in the music industry. While I certainly understand their need to control and limit the free downloading of their music, using RealPlayer is NOT a satisfactory way to achieve that end.

Thursday Seems Like Monday When Your Days Are All The Same
There are days and then there are days.

Legend of the U.S.S. Titanic - Jaime Brockett
497 and a half feet of ROPE...

Rolex 24 Live Webcast shut down by SPEEDTV

Zero Net Energy - Verdae LLC is a new client
Welcome to DLMWeb

Felice Brothers Deliver The Goods - Helsinki's Top Ten for 2008
Simone Felice stands on stage night after night, as do all the boys, and delivers...

Had fun, see you soon, I hope
I promise, beloved algorithm, that I shall never attempt to spoof you.

Harry Carter winning the 1960 Vanderbuilt Cup!!

What is new in DLMWeb?
Feeds from DLMWeb powered websites

How Many Vice-presidents Became President During Their Terms of Office ???
Is there even a contest...really?

Ce n'est pas comedie
Tina Fey didn't write this shit... it is really what is inside Snowjob Square Glasses' head.

Fey as Palin - Best SNL impression since Dana Carvey's Bush
Timeless and perfect

Daniel Nocera describes new process for storing solar energy
Electricity-by-wire from a central source could be a thing of the past.

Mama HillyBeans WebCast

Why the Road?
Thanks to Autoextremist.com

Lightning Book - A book about lightning is the scariest read of the year!
Not the kind of out of the body experience I want to have!

ALMS and Formula BMW at Lime Rock Park's New Uphill and West Bend

Albert Hofmann
Remember April 19 - Bicycle Day

DLMWeb live cam
A test of the Ustream.tv

Kart Race at OVRP - 8hrs - June 21 2008

Random Motorsport and Car Related Videos
YouTube Ad Test

Juan Manuel Fangio Video
From the director of Chariots of Fire

Austin Healey Videos - THE BIG HEALEY
A video collection of these wonderful cars in action

Austin Healey 3000 Mk III - A Superb Restoration
THE Big Healey - 1967 BJ8

Lime Rock Connecticut - Map of Business District at End of

Ralph Stanley & The Clinch Mt. Boys - Answer The Call - Live at Helsinki October 13, 2007
An absolute high point in my 7+ years as Helsinki's webmaster

Pastrami on rye... and so far up the river!!
the wi-fi connecting too

Lime Rock Park Video - 2007 Vintage Festival - Sam Posey, Jim Haynes, John Bishop
40 minutes of wonderful conversation from the 2007 Vintage Festival

Bush Colonoscopy Finds His Brain!
It was only a case of recto-cranial inversion...

Northwest Corner Connecticut Real Estate Brokerage Becomes Latest DLMWeb Client
Helping another business to get found on the web!!

The Stanguellini In Aunt Edith's Gift Shop
It is mid-July in Lime Rock. After almost 7 years in Arizona, I find the Connecticut humidity is odd, intense.

OSCA MT4 Spider Morelli
A Maserati by any other name...is an OSCA.

Falwell Falls - Ugly Little Toad Croaks
Goodbye and Good Riddance

"Success is not no violence" - George W. Bush, The GODDAMNED 43rd President of the United States of America!!!!!!!!!
In ceremonies of the horsemen, even the pawn must hold a grudge

The Wellspring of Reality- R. Buckminster Fuller
An essay that has informed my thinking since I stumbled upon it in the Lenox Library in 1970

Lizzie West's "19 Miles To Baghdad"
Something Good Has Begun

At Last, Something Worth Reading from the Berkshire Eagle!
Eagle Droppings Narrowly Miss Young Mother, Hitting Instead Their IntendedTarget

A Psychiatrist's Perspective on George Bush - Yes, He IS sick
Speculation regarding GW's sanity.

Test of Podcast Creator
HTML for page placement

The Webbie's Helsinki Favorites
My cup runneth over! A brief rundown of some special artists and moments in 2006

Hal Ketchum Coming to Helsinki!
and here is some STREAMING VIDEO

A Special Treat for Visitors with HighSpeed Internet

Perl to kill MS BitDrool Eliminate MS Word Generated Curly Quotes, em Dashes, en Dashes, Elipsises, and Curly Single Apostrophes
A couple of tweaks to the Smart Quote filter

A Special Report - Spring 2007
Do you understand what your Web pages say?
About SEO

A Beautiful Example of Guitarmaking
Hot of the workbench of Jeremy Gage

Dylan's New Album Review - Rogovoy Scoops the World.
Using DLMWeb Content Mangement Tools make this a do-it -yourself project

A Second version of Smart Quote Filter
A regular expression and adding the utf-8 metatag

What So Proudly We Hailed
A son's lesson learned

This'll Teach Her to Ask...
Little did this glib goyim with a pisk (go look it up, if your Yiddish is a bit rusty) realize...

How I Spent My Winter
The bottle was dusty, but the liquor was clean

San Pedro River from Cascabel
A bit more about why...

Arizona!!??? What Were You Thinking?
Ahh, wilderness!

Cowboy Up
My step-grandfather, Remington Schuyler was one hell of an illustrator

Today the police cars are going crazy!!
Here is a test

David Minton, Berkshire Web Designer in Great Barrington Uses His Own Site to Demonstrate RSS
I'll bet that you don't really get it, but you should!

Horseback Rides in India
An amazingly good thing

Niagara Falls/Slowly I Turn
Bud and Lou?

Insanity Industry

A Reiterative Failure to Classify
An Eagle article gets Ol' Grumpy up on his high horse

Getting Found on The Web
Good design and Relevant Copy - The NO BS solution to Search Engine Optimization

Lola EX 257 / Lime Rock July 4 Weekend/Chris Dyson
Digital Photo and Image Manipulation by dlminton

Some Good News For a Change
The Starfish Difference makes a REAL difference in a hard land I know and love.

Monsoon Hangs Up Heat Builds Up
On seeing Arizona live up to its name

Rogovoy's DLMWEB powered Blog featured on Front Page of Eagle
A dlminton web service site gets some ink

Six Acres and a Deere
Hmm, thought a thought provoking way of looking at the situation.

June !5, 2005
Jeremy Wallace Becomes the latest DLMWeb Makeover
A supremely talented musician, a wonderful and inovative songwriter

June 6, 2005
A new bloom - for Margot
Photoshop Image by dlm

June 3, 2005
Eagle on the Grill as Seth Rogovoy Hits a Nerve
Some great colloquy at a dlmweb powered Web Journal

May 26, 2005
As close as a star to the moon.
Read Gatsby, and read it again and again

May 31, 2005
Oh, Now I Get It...An epiphany from the NYTimes
Been there, done that.

April 13, 2005,
Images/Helsinki 2005
Grupo Fantasma Image

The Auto Shop in Salisbury, CT Joins dlmweb's Family of Websites
More about this project as it is developed

97.7 FM is WBCR, Berkshire Community Radio

Safe Update for Helsinki
Automatic Backup

WBCR 97.7 Schedule
Support Community Radio

Conservative Thinking at its Best
Inimical to basic constitutional principles

How RSS Gets Your Message Delivered
Three different examples

Frank Zuback Productions - Music Services
Another dlminton web services powered blog hits the web

The Lantern House Motel Goes Online in Record Time
4 hours from purchase to online - Outstanding service from Outnet,.com and GoDaddy.com

Strong Visual Image Opens Start Racing Site
Using broadband effectively to entice your visitors to read your message

Latest Helsinki Opener
A dynamic page that is easily managed

Another reason to use Firefox
Some scary stuff from the folks who brought you the Blue Screen of Death

Turning Horse Feed into Mulch
A self explanatory mea culpa

A Feed from Pumpelly Racing
Updating Daytona via WiFi

And the journey goes on
The broken key is a pain.

It is beginning to get a bit interesting.
Bed time for DLM

Road Trip Tomorrow
Wiki this

About this RSS/Blog deal
Why this should matter to YOU

Two objectives today, chronical a personal experience and describe the functions of the programming I have been writing.

Pottery Barn Rule - You Break It You Own It
Pssssst...Wanna buy a couple of hot domain names?

August 7, 2005
A DLMWebCast
in fond remembrance: Avalon Ballroom, October 13, 1968
Distributing Your Music and Message on the Web
Getting the word...and the MUSIC out.

JS Code to put RSS on a web page
Nice stuff

Adding an RSS feed to MyYahoo
My feed shows up on MyYahoo...damn, that is cool.

A Gray Sleety Afternoon
as I explore this RSS deal

Next thing is to use this
Good night

Enough for Tonight
Very satisfying

Next Stop...The Aggregators
We shall see, but I believe we are getting there

That was too easy!!!
Got there

Almost Midnight
Getting there

Camille du Gast

You Learn Something New Every Day
I doubt it

Really Simple Syndication has a real name

Web definitions for Blog -- (weB LOG)
from: www.matisse.net/files/glossary.html

An Editoral Rewrite
Which puts it back on the journal opener

Paris-Madrid '03
The end of the era

A New Year
Uhh, '04? You sucked. Sorry, but that's the way it was.

from Get Fuzzy

Overwite Me!

PodCast Feed via JavaScript
One of many ways to use an RSS feed.

Helsinki Photos
Abby Lappen/Open Stage

1954 Ferrari 250 Europa PF Coupe

1962 Porsche 356B S Roadster T-6 (Twin Grill)

Getting Found on The Web
Good design and Relevant Copy - This is what Search Engine Optimization

The Log of the Starshit Enterprise
Wayyyyyyyy more than you need to know, unless you are an uninsured male aged 50 + who is trying to figure out how to get the health care you need.

And now for something different....
Parental guidance might be in order...don't click if you're uptight.

Custom Blogs and Sites that Get Found by Search Engines - DLMWeb Easy-to-Use Content Management

On loving A Younger Woman

My friend Juliane Hiam asked me to write this guest column at the beginning of the winter (a winter I spent camping out in the Arizona desert...with wi-fi and satellite TV, so pretty special "roughing it", but that is another story).

Little did this glib goyim with a pisk (go look it up, if your Yiddish is a bit rusty) realize how tough that would prove to be.

@JulianeHiam's note: As Minto writes below, I did ask him to write this little piece on his May/December romance. What hooked me was that he referred to it one day on the phone as "Fool's Highway." This I had to hear more about -- and I happen to have a special interest in this, um, subject. And by the way, if you are in need of a bitchin' webbie, Minto's your man. I couldn't ask for a more on the ball, or more eccentric webmaster.
"On Loving a Younger Woman"
by David Lamb Minton


It seemed like such an easy request, really. It was five months ago, and I was on the phone with Jacuzzi. "You've got to write a guest column for bimbopolitics on what it was like being married to a younger woman", she said. "Hell, yes!” the lonely old hipster (uh, that would be me) replied, "It's a tale I've told a thousand times."

Well, 5 months later, yesterday to be exact, the challenge still stood. And I'd have been damned if I was going to write another word until I spun this little homily.

So the following is my dust jacket blurb version of my ten-years-long tale of being married to a brilliant, beautiful, sexually robust 17 years younger woman. To begin I will say simply that it was quite a ride. But beyond that, it was a sad and funny story of love, and fear, joy and laughter, tears, pain, remorse, kindnesses, and ecstatic moments. We shared adventures and tedium, growth and regression...foolishness and wisdom, and ultimately, mutual abandonment.

I was 40 years old, and had been a father and husband for almost 20 years when the mother of my kids pulled the plug on my first marriage. Best thing the old gal ever did, for herself, and for me. Wise, wise woman that she was (and still is), she knew we were long past done. Oh it hurt like hell, I wept and moaned, and it took a long, long time to put it into perspective. Her significant other (he was my best friend before and is my best friend today) and she are a match made in heaven, (I don't know who could really put up with either of their idiosyncrasies but the two of them with each other's -- and I say that as lovingly as only an old old friend could.) The three of us laugh at our past, and she and I take joy in our grown sons and growing grandchildren. We are ancient hippy anachronisms, and she and I were damn fine parents and are righteously proud of all we were and are today.

But it took the love of my younger woman to get me to this kind of perspective. It took having to love her, and have her love me back. In her I met my intellectual equal, and also someone who was as screwed up as I was, but in a different way. We fed each other's sicknesses, I suppose, and made love like wild horses in a hurricane. She screamed at me once, toward the end, "You know, all we do is fuck and fight." Well, yeah, it did devolve to that. But we also competed for smartest creature on the planet. All that and real, gentle, sharing love and companionship, too.

To get to this 58 year old vantage point of bemused detachment, and slightly lonely longing only took all those years of giving, receiving and making love . . . oh, and 6 long years of analysis.

So, here's the skinny, old guys. Do you love your younger woman? Not just want to sport fuck her, but LOVE her? Are you ready to hatch a kid? Can you afford the price, financial and emotional? Then, don't play Hamlet, go for it. Be foolish, but don't be a fool.

No, I'm not being simplistic, or glib. I had a rare chance and took it. I knew the chronological facts. She was an old young woman, and I was a young old man and we ran with it. The younger woman and I lasted 10 years, but, as often happens, passion faded. She wanted a child, and I . . . blinked. We ended with her pronouncing me “the kindest man in the universe.” Ouch. Loving divorces hurt tremendously, you know, don't believe it to be any other way. She had outgrown me, and went to find "Something else, not better." Double ouch.

I had become her lover, shrink, father, mother, caretaker, mentor, friend, confidant, and foil. At the end she blamed me for our being joined at the hip. And she was right.

You see, she had been orphaned at a young age, and a trust fund is no substitute for loving and living parents. The best that her expensive college could do was to send her forth into the world a fragile empty vessel, some $80,000 poorer. The care, and loving that I gave was not just my loving kindness, I was selfishly altruistic. She was my distraction from my own emptiness. With my own kids about grown, and my illusion of a future shattered, I needed to nurture even more than I needed to get laid -- and she provided a solution to both. It was a concatenation of sweetly tragic needs. I kept her from self-destruction, to a fault. The battle between my paternalistic self and the lonely lover was beyond my comprehension then.

I felt just like I did when I told my own kids, "If you do that, this will happen". Except I was trying it on a willful 20 something, who also happened to be my spouse. Not good. Still, I couldn't help but try. So for her I kept many of life's hard knocks away, for years, until she grew, and found her way back to a demanding academic job. I couldn't help her then, and watched in horror as her dream job turned nightmare. All the while her biological clock was ticking, and finally, I blinked at rearing yet another kid. We couldn't raise our cat without psychodrama; I was not about to try a baby. I was in fact, worn out. I had been a dad for 35 years!!! Two sons, and then...my child bride.

So we ended, not because she was too young, not because she was too nuts. Because we grew, and if that is the price of loving...well, I'll sign up again. I made her smile, she made me laugh. She gave as good as she got, and what more can we ask, really?

Good ol' Chris Smither has a line that really sums it up: "Your loss is measured in illusions, and your gain is all in bittersweet intelligence."

I'm a grandpa twice over now, yet will continue to race go-karts at 100 mph two inches off the ground until I can't get out of the seat! At 35 that former child bride got rid of me, went back to school and started in on her masters, and some 5 years after that she hatched that kid she wanted. So maybe age don't mean shit, but shit still happens, anyway. Some folks live and love together forever; some shine as brightly as a supernova, and then blink out to dust. But in this universe, stardust is just the seed of yet another sun aborning.

And in this endless universe, I am wiser for the giving, and better for the loving. I would do it again in a heartbeat...

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